Muslim Men, Nightmare Marriages

Dear Faithfreedom,

Just like the other women in your website, I would like to help women interested in Muslim men to beware. I decided to share this after reading the story ‘recipe from hell’ …because that’s my story as well.

I am a Christian -Catholic lady and I met a Muslim man in university. He went after me like crazy and seemed like the perfect guy, just 2 weeks after knowing him he wanted to marry me and he seemed very serious.

We dated for 7 years while we were still in college and the relationship was very serious, he was very generous with gifts and stuff and very caring.

During the dating years he was open to my religion, he used to stay to my home even when I was not there, went to church together …everything was okay and all in my family loved him.

On the seventh year we got married in church – Catholic Church with several priests but had the reception at home and moved in together.

I loved him so much and was sure I was doing the right thing when we got married.

Since we were fresh graduates we agreed that he should go back to his Islamic country since it was difficult for him to get a job in my country and I was pregnant and we needed to be stable.

I was left alone with my pregnancy …he went back and got a good job I was happy since I now thought finally he can help me financially. But he told me so many lies about his family and how he has to help them. By that time I believed him. I was on a contract job so I could not leave but the plan was that I was to join him after I finish the contract.

Since he returned to his country he started changing and was not supporting me though he had a good job. Things got worse. I started to suspect something was not right.
He called me and said he has another woman he wants to marry and doesn’t want anything to do with me. I couldn’t believe it, so I went to his country and with the help of the family ended the relationship with this other woman and he asked that he be given time.
We did and he became a little better and even came to visit me in my country.

Then I got the second baby. Again he left and I was left alone with my pregnancy.
So I told him since the contract was over I wanted to join him. He played with me with more lies on why I should not go there …that I wait to get the baby then go.

Well, I got the baby and we agreed that I should now leave my job and join him in his country. My employers did not want me to go and even offered me a better position and salary but with my Catholic background marriage came first and so I chose to leave everything in my country and join him.

I went there together with my two girls one was 3 and the other 6 months.

Once I got there, that’s when I saw his true colors. He did not want to buy us things.

He criticized and abused me all the time, he used to avoid coming home (I was staying with his family) his mother was seeing all the wrong he was doing to me, but did nothing. Things got worse and I was so tormented.

In the end he told me that he was going to marry this other woman that I found out about and that she knew about me and didn’t mind. So he told me that if I wanted him to be fine with me again I should accept this other woman and I should change my religion and started saying how he cannot live with a non Muslim in his home.

He even said that he no longer liked my family and my home country because we were Christians.

Things didn’t get any better since I refused his new terms so he just mistreated me till in the end he threw me out with my children and sent us back to our country without a penny.

Then a few months later (this year) he came back to my country and married another woman – a Muslim from another town and of course did not bother to check on us since according to him our marriage was not valid since it was Christian.

My dad asked him to send a letter that he has divorced me, but he refused and said he didn’t have to coz he knows he was not married to me.

I am now a single mother of two he has abandoned us completely we are not in touch at all. Thank God I got another job and am managing ok and my family is assisting me.

But every day I wake up into my reality and in shock at how things turned around.

Until today I am fighting depression because mistreatment from someone you love and especially because of the harsh things that he told me…

So …I hope whoever is thinking of getting involved with a Muslim will think carefully

Regards

Victim